운명 (Fate)

Monday, July 27, 2009
Today a few friends and I went out into Sinchon (the area nearest Sogang University) and decided to get our fortunes told and tarot cards read. For the tarot card reading I asked a particularly specific question about someone here [I think Tanya’s the only one outside of Korea who knows haha] and she basically told me that that person is complicated and that I should just focus on the friendship. I also apparently drew several cards of women by themselves so she hinted that I’m going to be alone for a while.

[Fortune-Personality]
It was kind of bittersweet, and then I moved on to get my fortune told. I told her my birthdate and the time it was in Korea when I was born and she went through ten different categories, basically getting everything right. First, she talked about my personality and was spot on. She said that I’m a person with a good heart who gives herself to people easily. Directly translated from Korean, she said that I give my heart and lots of emotion to everyone. She also mentioned that I think a lot and have deep thoughts.

[Love Life]
She asked if I was seeing anyone now, and I said no. She then asked when my last relationship ended, I told her January. She said that there would be some lonely times ahead for me, particularly in the Spring. She also said that because of my giving heart/personality, guys tend to not like it. She said that even if someone says they like me I don’t fully believe them and even though they’re by my side and say they’re committed to me, I’m always anxious deep down that they’ll cheat. I shouldn’t expect or try to have any serious relationships for about two years. She said I may have relationships but I shouldn’t think of them with the potential for marriage. I should just focus on the friendships and maintaining those for the next couple of years.

[Job]
I told her what my major was and she said it would be good for me to pursue a career where I’m surrounded by people and get to help people out (I immediately thought social work because one of my former teachers in high school mentioned she could see me in that profession). She said there was no way I could work in a quiet environment, and that I hate being alone so I need to be around people. That I basically feel lonely without people. All of which is true. I asked her if I should change my major then and she said no. She just advised me not to try to start my own business.

[Marriage]
She said that after two years or so, before I graduate (since I asked), there will be someone who I will continue to date after graduation with the potential of marriage. She mentioned that I will probably get married in my late 20s, and advised that I either get married before I’m 28 (27 in the US) or when I’m 30. She said the guy I marry will finally be the guy I will fully trust and give myself to because he’s chosen to be with me (whereas before I would always be anxious). She also mentioned that I basically have to have children to keep the marriage strong. The only thing she saw for sure for me was that I would have one child at least, and she said it was a daughter. I guess that’s what I get for not wanting a daughter first-born… I wanted two sons about two years or more apart and then a daughter four or so years younger…because of the way I grew up and the way my mom grew up I don’t want a girl to be the oldest because it’s just too hard…

[Health]
She said that my immunity is really weak and health is really vulnerable. She said that in the upcoming semester if I get sick I should avoid taking medicines if I can help it because otherwise a more serious illness might occur. She also said that I need to be careful of nose/allergies, urinary/bladder, and cramps especially because I tend to take medicine for those things (like Tylenol) and there could be consequences. It’s true, I do tend to get sick really easily and take a lot of medicine to the point where I kind of grow immune to them.

[School]
She said that I haven’t been studying very hard lately and I admitted it was true. I study just the amount I need, which is very different from how it was in high school for me. She said that this upcoming year I won’t study hard and won’t do well either. After she finished telling me about my love life I basically said so I should just focus on my studies this year and she said no, it’s not going to work this upcoming year. You will study hard and do really well next year but this year you should just start something new or do something you like and focus on that. The weird thing is she was completely right because I know I probably won’t do well and won’t want to study hard because I’m not a fan of intro business classes and I planned on starting up yoga and dance classes this upcoming semester.

I asked her a few other questions too. I asked her what I should do about my brother and she said that he probably will do worse things than what he’s been doing now and will be disappointing my parents still for a while. She said he might come to his senses in a year or two but that until then he may even go off onto a worse path for a while before returning, no matter what I do. She did say though that I should continue with my plan on maintaining our relationship while I’m in school rather than turn a blind eye just because I’m far from home.

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I don’t care if my spelling is horrible but I just couldn’t explain what she said in English… at least this way few people will understand. If you have to know, you can ask. This was probably the most disheartening part of the entire fortune telling thing.

Overall, she was pretty accurate. I didn’t say anything and yet she basically predicted what I was planning on doing and thinking about in my future anyway. I was going to start something new this upcoming semester and focus less on guys and stuff and I knew my studies would lack a little just because it’s going to be difficult and boring. She got my personality down to a T and just said that there’s not much I can do to try and change it – even if I want to try and give a little less of myself each time, it’s in my nature to do so.

I’m not going to believe in it – I’m not superstitious like that. But it was fun because it was just cool and amazing how she got everything right and was really able to get certain things right. The tarot card reading and fortune telling is done by two separate people, but neither contradicted the other, so I found that interesting too. Before I leave I might go to another place to see if I’ll get something similar or different.

On that note, I think I have lots of food-for-thought.